Tuesday mornings are a time for our pastoral team to connect and catch up with how things are going…share whats new…chat about strategy…how are we doing as a team…and hear from our pastor. This morning was a great time to hear from Troy. Not only is Troy Jones my boss, pastor, leader….we’ve been friends for 28 years. Right now Troy is doing a personal focus time on strengthening his “emotional health”. Here’s a statement he made, “When he’s 60 he wants to make sure he’s not bitter and still loves his wife, kids, life, God, ministry, & people”. What are the things he needs to do now to make sure that happens and he doesn’t get bitter? We need to focus on being emotionally healthy. So below are seven things he discussed today to focus on to move toward emotional health (good stuff).
1. Assume that there will be discouragement and disappointment in life. This is not to dwell on the negative…live in reality.
2. Decide that life is too short to be bitter. There are many people and things we can choose to harbor bitterness about…don’t let this happen.
3. Protect your quiet time. It’s virtually impossible to struggle in any of these areas if you’re having a solid quiet time with Jesus.
4. Remember – there’s always another side to every story. Don’t always assume that the people who are not on your side are wrong.
5. Get perspective. It’s amazing how things will change when you allow time between the point of tension and your reaction.
6. Find people who will let you vent and not perpetuate your issue. In other words…occasionally we need to verbally vomit…make sure when that happens, the people around you don’t let you eat it back up and carry it around.
7. Develop heart questions. How’s your heart doing? Be honest with yourself. A great book (that he’s reading) that covers this point is, “It cam from within” by Andy Stanley.
These are all great points to consider when focusing on being emotionally healthy. In no way was this to indicate that he is or we all are hitting 10 out of 10 on each point….but they are all areas we need to focus on.