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Notes from our meeting this morning…

Tuesday mornings are a time for our pastoral team to connect and catch up with how things are going…share whats new…chat about strategy…how are we doing as a team…and hear from our pastor.  This morning was a great time to hear from Troy.  Not only is Troy Jones my boss, pastor, leader….we’ve been friends for 28 years.  Right now Troy is doing a personal focus time on strengthening his “emotional health”.  Here’s a statement he made, “When he’s 60 he wants to make sure he’s not bitter and still loves his wife, kids, life, God, ministry, & people”.  What are the things he needs to do now to make sure that happens and he doesn’t get bitter?  We need to focus on being emotionally healthy.  So below are seven things he discussed today to focus on to move toward emotional health (good stuff).

1. Assume that there will be discouragement and disappointment in life.  This is not to dwell on the negative…live in reality.

2. Decide that life is too short to be bitter.  There are many people and things we can choose to harbor bitterness about…don’t let this happen.

3. Protect your quiet time.  It’s virtually impossible to struggle in any of these areas if you’re having a solid quiet time with Jesus.

4. Remember – there’s always another side to every story.  Don’t always assume that the people who are not on your side are wrong.

5. Get perspective.  It’s amazing how things will change when you allow time between the point of tension and your reaction.

6. Find people who will let you vent and not perpetuate your issue.  In other words…occasionally we need to verbally vomit…make sure when that happens, the people around you don’t let you eat it back up and carry it around.

7. Develop heart questions.  How’s your heart doing?  Be honest with yourself.  A great book (that he’s reading) that covers this point is, “It cam from within” by Andy Stanley.

These are all great points to consider when focusing on being emotionally healthy.  In no way was this to indicate that he is or we all are hitting 10 out of 10 on each point….but they are all areas we need to focus on.

What did you discuss in your Tusday morning meeting?

Drive session 3…

Session 3 opened with another great high energy song.  The band did a great job.  Now, to Andy’s talk.  He did what I really enjoy about attending conferences.  He threw out his notes for the final session and decided to just talk.  So, he said that he decided to pull out five quotes that he has been wrestling with and he was going to share them with us…give thoughts…and mention a “take away”.  So, here goes:

1. Quote: “To reach people no one else is reaching, we must do things no one else is doing”.  –Craig Grochel

Andy put this on a large document…with the number of unreached people within a 10 mile radius of their three campuses….then posted it in their conference room.  Goal is to have this quote disturbe them every day.

Take Away: Become preocupied with those you haven’t reached as opposed to those you are trying to keep. –Reggie Joiner

2. Quote: The next generation product almost never comes from the previous generation.

Someone on the fringe of ministry is coming up with the next thing.  You can either Fight it or Fund it.  You can be so careful that you’re behind the times…

Take Away: Be a student not a critic

3. Quote: What do I believe is impossible to do in my field, but if it could be done…it would fundamentally change my business?

What in your particular model would you change if you looked at it different?

Take Away: Pay attention to the opeople who are breaking the rules.

4. Quote: If we got kicked out and the board got rid of us, why shouldn’t we just walk out – come back in – and do it ourselves?  (story from the guys at intel, Only the paranoid survive)

Question…ASK…What’s in decline?  Where are we manufacturing energy? (great question)…announcements?  events?  stuff that no-one really wants?…..NOT…Why are people not attending…?  if you’re asking that question…it’s too late!

Question….ASK….What are our underlying assumptions?  What are the assumptions that we as a team have that we really shouldn’t?  Ask someone new to evaluate who we are and what we do?  Signage/environments/wording/communication…etc

Take Away: Acknowledge what’s not working and own up to why you’re not willing to do anything about it.

Side note….This stuff is totally kicking my butt!!!

5. Quote: When your memories exceed your dreams…the end is near.  -Unknown

Crank up the vison.  If the vision isn’t driving it…then the past is.

Success breeds complacency…compacency breeds failure.

Take Away: Don’t let success or momentum overshadow your vision.  Keep the vision out front.

What are things that you’re doing to reach people that no one else is doing?

Drive session 2

Yea…I know that Drive ended 3 days ago but I’ve been running around and didn’t get a chance to post my thoughts on Drive….so….here goes.  The second session was great…yet….I enjoyed the 3 probably the best.  In the second session on Tuesday afternoon it opened with a rockin number by the band.  Little cover tune by Zeplin.  Great job Christina.  Andy’s talk:

Becoming a great staff  (Mark 10)

1. A great staff is made up of “great” leaders.  Leaders that ask the question, “How can I help”?

2. Best practices for creating a “Great” staff.

a. Do for ONE when you can’t do for all.   LOVED this point.  I’ve been involved on teams that the leader would say….well, If I can’t do it for all…I won’t do for any.  OK, that’s fine for them….but what about that one person who really needed what they had to give them? As leaders, we need to ask….what is the ONE thing that this ONE person needs from me?

b. Systematize top down service.  Random acts of kindness is not enough.  If you want your team to serve…make sure they see you serving.  be intentional.  One thing that NP does is assign all team members to a “staff coach”.  This is an older member of the team who will help develop the person of the team members.  The team member can bring anything to this coach to get perspective.  Great idea…especially for larger staffs.

d. Create and maintain a sustainable pace.  Withough margin, there is no room to serve.  Without margin, we seek first OUR kingdom.

e. Celbrate and reward greatness when you see it.  What’s rewarded is repeated!  That is so good!

Andy paused and reflected on one talk he’s developing right now….Symbolic Leadership – I’m going to do for one what I wish I could do for all.  I really like the title…Symbolic Leadership.  Where could we go with that?

f. Confront your ego.  What’s more important:  Creating a great organization or creating a name for yourself?  Ouch!

3. Signs that things aren’t so “great”.

a. Competition between departments

b. Double standards

c. Loyalty lectures

One thing NP does is stop at the beginnning of some staff meeings and write one thank you note.  Great idea.

Wrapped up the session – went on road trip to Brownsbridge – Had outside BBQ – did a quick starbucks run – then came back to hear the Bethany Dillon bluegrass group (not my music style but I can acknowledge the talent).

Then….Jeff Foxworthy.  Yes he was very funny.  Great christian guy!

Top Tip:

Take time to write a Thank You note…

Drive Session 1

Tonight opened up with the band & Steve Fee performing a cool song (I think it’s called Typical).  Then Andy came up and set up expectations for the event.  Cute video about church staff road trip then into Andy.  Once again, Andy did a great job presenting a topic that for some will be brand new and others might be a topic they’ve already studied.  I thoroughly enjoyed it.  As leaders we need to choose to Trust and be Trustworthy.  I liked the way that Andy is able to speak for the senior leader to the staff and share some tough statements that staff might likely hear better and let it sink deeper coming from Andy at a conference as opposed to their own senior leader.

Bottom Line….(as a leader in the middle)

Our leaders need to trust us:  When the senior leader finds the gap between what they expect and experience…they need to trust.  When there is suspicion, they need to trust.  When trust is eroded, they need to come directly to us.

We need to be trustworthy:  We need to do what we say and when we don’t…we need to tell our leader.  We need to not over promise and under deliver…but, if it looks like we’re headed that way…we need to tell our leader.  And, if we’re confronted about the gaps we create…we need to tell the truth.  

When we tell the truth and go directly to our leader with and issue…we will build confidence.

Final Question…..nail in the coffin….

“Are the relationships on your staff worth exporting to your congregation”?  or  How will you feel when you see the people in you congregation building relationships like the relationship on your staff?

Session ended with a powerful worship set led by Steve Fee, Eddie Kirkland, Kristian Stanfill, & Todd Fields with back up by Candi Pearson-Shelton.  Now that’s a powerful line-up.  All this while the Jesus Painter is doing his thing.  Deep, powerful, emotional, moving, celebration, communion, love, and thankfulness.

As a leader, do you trust your team?  As a team member, are you trustworthy?