Tuesday mornings are a time for our pastoral team to connect and catch up with how things are going…share whats new…chat about strategy…how are we doing as a team…and hear from our pastor. This morning was a great time to hear from Troy. Not only is Troy Jones my boss, pastor, leader….we’ve been friends for 28 years. Right now Troy is doing a personal focus time on strengthening his “emotional health”. Here’s a statement he made, “When he’s 60 he wants to make sure he’s not bitter and still loves his wife, kids, life, God, ministry, & people”. What are the things he needs to do now to make sure that happens and he doesn’t get bitter? We need to focus on being emotionally healthy. So below are seven things he discussed today to focus on to move toward emotional health (good stuff).
1. Assume that there will be discouragement and disappointment in life. This is not to dwell on the negative…live in reality.
2. Decide that life is too short to be bitter. There are many people and things we can choose to harbor bitterness about…don’t let this happen.
3. Protect your quiet time. It’s virtually impossible to struggle in any of these areas if you’re having a solid quiet time with Jesus.
4. Remember – there’s always another side to every story. Don’t always assume that the people who are not on your side are wrong.
5. Get perspective. It’s amazing how things will change when you allow time between the point of tension and your reaction.
6. Find people who will let you vent and not perpetuate your issue. In other words…occasionally we need to verbally vomit…make sure when that happens, the people around you don’t let you eat it back up and carry it around.
7. Develop heart questions. How’s your heart doing? Be honest with yourself. A great book (that he’s reading) that covers this point is, “It cam from within” by Andy Stanley.
These are all great points to consider when focusing on being emotionally healthy. In no way was this to indicate that he is or we all are hitting 10 out of 10 on each point….but they are all areas we need to focus on.
What did you discuss in your Tusday morning meeting?
This is why we do church. Below is an email sent from Nomar to our pastor (Troy). Troy is the one on the left.
Dear Pastor Troy,
My name is Nomar and I go to the Well almost every Sunday. I hope you remember me and Hiro, my foreign exchange student from Japan. Here is the picture that we took together on Sunday.
It was cool because on Mother’s day we went to a Catholic church because majority of my family are Catholic and we took Hiro with us. He almost fell asleep. I told him, “Hiro, let me take you to my church next Sunday. It will be an experience you’ll never forget.” He then said, ” your not Catholic?” I said, “nope, I’m Christian. We believe in God and Jesus but let’s just say we do things a little different.”
So Sunday came and right away he was so impressed of how New Life church was so big and clean. Then when we went inside and he saw all the lights and the band his jaw literally dropped to the floor. He was so shocked. He asked me if this really is a church. Then when worship started, again he was amazed. His smile was from ear to ear. He enjoyed the talk and then he started worshiping at the end which made my whole week. The feeling of witnessing a Buhdist worshiping to God and Jesus was just amazing. I told him worshiping is like praying twice and that the feeling that he felt inside of him when he worshiped was the act of God saying that he was with him.
To cut the story short, Hiro-yuki Suzuki from Japan can’t wait to visit New life church again. Thank you Pastor Troy for all the Sunday talks.
How great is it that Nomar trusted us by bringing his foreign exhcange student. Let us never feel like we’re just going through the motions. God is trusting us with valuable souls and we’d better not screw it up.
Who is this excited to attend church with you this weekend?
My pastor made an insightful and fantastic statement today in our staff meeting. He was reflecting on how sometimes as the Senior Leader he will do things that other people might see as too detailed, small thinking, or something that the “pastor” shouldn’t be doing. You know, the things that others might think he should delegate. Troy’s reflection was that he needs to do these things not because he’s the pastor or for the church but for HIM. He (Troy) needs to connect with a guy who was in his youth ministry back in the day and spend some time with him. Go the extra mile to engourage him and get him involved in ministry. Troy said that we all need to not be afraid to do little things. He then reflected, “Doing little things won’t (by itself) grow the church…it will grow you…growing you WILL grow the church”.
The context in the meeting when this was shared was valuable. Too many times we get so focused on our strategy and sticking to the main thing…that we miss Jesus in the little things. We work so hard to “grow” the church that we forget to “grow” us. We will never grow a great ministry/organization until we focus on and grow us first.
What areas do you need to grow in today?